Fake People. Oh how they make me sad



In studying the human mind, science is constantly making new discoveries about how we learn, perceive and develop. Numerous studies and researches are conducted on younger generations so we know what we can do at an early stage to help them have a better start in life. New study reveals the most important things a parent can provide to a child to better prepare that child for adulthood. In this article we’ve narrowed it down to the 5 most important that you need to provide to your children to make them smarter.

1. Music education
It may be becoming a cliche, but exposure to music and music education early on in life can make your child smarter. A series of tests and scores in multiple categories showed better results in academic achievement by children who listened to quality music Music is so soothing to the mind that it helps not only the young, but the older generations too. In that sense, then, it can be said that the effects of music are timeless. 

2. School – Sports Balance
Another cliche we all know is the dumb jock stereotype – that people who are principality into sports are not so smart and good with academic subjects. Studies have repeatedly shown this not to be true.

It has been shown that jocks are not good with academia because they are too busy training, and do not study. Not because they are not smart. Your child needs to have the balance between studying and having a quality physical workout plan in his/her life. Studies have in fact shown that physical activity improves memory and brain’s responsiveness to learning and developing.

3. Make sure they are getting enough sleep
You probably should take this with a grain of salt, but some studies claim that the brain of your sixth grader at home will operate as a fourth grader, if he/she missed even an hour of sleep. Further claims go on to compare that regular loss of sleep can slow down the brain development of your child by full two years.

It is not every day that science universally agrees on an issue, but the sleep issue seems non – negotiable: make sure your kid gets enough sleep.

4. Hard Work Beats IQ when IQ Doesn’t Work
Ok, let’s reduce the drama in that introduction. IQ is very important, but without discipline and most of all, self – discipline, your child will probably not get far. Studies have repeatedly shown that children with grit, determination to hard work and self – discipline almost always outperform children who seem smarter but are lazy or disorganized.

The disciplined children generally perform better at school, at sports and get further in their careers later in life. IQ is inherited (from the mother, according to science) but you must help your child develop self – discipline so it can channel its mental and physical abilities more productively.

5. Make sure your kid doesn’t spend time with the wrong people
We are social beings, and spending time with peers matters enormously. However, you must be careful what sort of peers you allow your child to spend most time with. Peer pressure is a serious force, especially at a younger age. So make sure you provide a quality school in a good neighborhood for your kid.

Pay attention to what sort of company he keeps and even the topics of conversation he likes most. All of that will influence his/her development, vocabulary, ambitions and career inclinations later on in life.

He who dares wins

Recently this article has been popular. So thought I’d repost it

Who Dares, Wins (Latin: “Qui audet adipiscitur”, French: Qui ose gagne) is a motto that originated with the British Special Air Service. Also the catchphrase “He Who Dares, Wins” was commonly used by Del Boy in British sitcom Only Fools and Horses. The motto has been used by twelve elite special forces units around the world that in some way have historical ties to the British SAS. (“Fortune favors the bold”) Even the ‘Rhodesian Special Air Service Regiment’ in Kabrit Barracks, Salisbury (now Harare) used this famous quote. For me having a short spell in the Army as a younger man and additionally having been born in Rhodesia, makes this quote a permanent vision and thought that runs deep in my blood. One could say that my life and times have had this very belief firmly tattooed to my very core. However, I am sure there are many people who have similar beliefs and live their lives through this very thought process?

Although in no way comical, like the legend that Del Boy was. I like to think that this thought process, although risky, is one that we should all try to examine and lean towards. The world today is very different to how it was for our parents and their parents before them. In Spain and much of Europe, one in four people are out of work. The youth of today are the ones who have been cut short in the system that runs our lives. We all do it. We go through a process that has been set out for us, and we are expected to conform to this very existence. However, like all successful people, if you ask them how they managed to get to where they are and what was the secret to their success? They’ll no doubt talk about hard work, knowing the right people and being in the right place at the right time. But sometimes this is not an option for us mere mortals. What can you do when so many things are stacked against you?

Well! I have found that this very quote to be the answer.

Simply put. ‘He who dares wins.’ Are you willing to move out of your comfort zone to find a better way in life?

Well, I have gone out of my way, completely out of pocket and back to the bottom to try and find a way back to where I want to be and to where I believe I should be. Have I made it? No! Not yet. Maybe I never will? Actually, I think my actual goal of being able to afford to live here may be the bridge too far. But I dare myself to make it work and I am surprised by the outcomes that keep presenting themselves. Only time will tell for me? But I am firmly committed to this very belief. If I turn over every stone and look underneath it to see what possibilities may lie there, then I know I have done everything one can do to be what they truly want to be.

There is one problem though. The SAS were very aware of this and many of them bare the scares that these battles brought. There is a cost to this attitude. It is hard, it can be very dangerous and it can lead to failure. My actual health may be the downfall for me as I can not afford the medical costs that I will need to pay to find out what is exactly wrong with me. But who said life and in-particular, winning was easy? If you only knew what I had done to get what I needed? It would certainly bring a smile to your face and at the same time bring a tear to your eyes if you knew how bad things are at this present time.

Life goes on! So do opportunities. If you can’t see them or miss those opportunities when they arise, then you may one day look back and say ‘What if?’ I know one thing. If things don’t work out for me. Well then it will truly provide me with the answer of whether I should pursue a life in America. If I must return to Europe, then at least I can put this all behind me and then finally realize that this is who I am and this is what I should be doing. It’s a shame that to find this out, I must go through everything here to finally find out where I truly belong. But to do this. One needs to be willing to take the dare. Who dares wins. I win No matter what. I win if things work out. But I equally win if I return to the place where I am from. Because everything I left behind is still there. That’s why all over the world there are people who share this same value. And fight to try their best to better themselves.

What is Best?


What is Best? Do you ever question things? Are you free willed? Speak your mind? With unexpected recent life journeys I question whether this is wise? However, I’d regard myself as much of the above mentioned ideologies.

If one was to look closely, or just close enough, you’d possibly see a pattern. One of either success or failure. Although words I detest. This can simply be used as a measure for the past. Surrounding the events that have shaped your very life. For me, I’m just adjusting with actually being slightly aware of how my actions could have possibly affected my stay in a certain place or even my job at that time. If there is such a thing as a pattern? Then should we not have greater accountability laid before us, with actions that can prevent this from happening again, so we don’t end up making similar mistakes, in work and in life in general?

What brings a smile to my face, is the acceptance of the thing! When the penny drops. It all makes sense.